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February 14, 2019

Happy Valentines Day! As today is the ‘official’ day of love, I thought it would be timely to write a blog about what it is and how it all works.  Hint. It’s a bit more complicated than you think.  

As a psychotherapist working with individuals and couples for more than a decade, I’ve learned a few things along the way.  For starters, love is not something that simply happens to you.  Yes, we “fall in love”.  We get jittery feelings in our stomach every time we see that person or hear their voice.  Our heart skips a beat wh...

January 31, 2019

Two years ago, I was going through the IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) process. I was 39 years old at the time, and my doctor told me basically to just get on with it.  Because of my age, it was likely that my geriatric eggs were the root cause of my infertility, and IVF was the next step in the process.  As it was my first experience, all of the steps were foreign to me. I was required to visit the clinic every other day for bloodwork (not a fan of needles to say the least), and an ultrasound (again, not entirely comfortable). Th...

January 14, 2019

We need others to survive. Literally. 

Being social has helped us to survive and grow over millions of years.  Socialization was a key strength for the primate ancestors of humans when they switched from foraging for food by night (using darkness as a source of protection) to carrying out their activities by day, which made them increasingly vulnerable to a whole host of other predators.  Aside from foraging, we also need to procreate to ensure the survival of our species.  No rocket science involved there.  However, in order to...

December 18, 2018

In case you’ve been too busy with holiday parties, drinking your fair share of eggnog, scotch, and scarfing copious amounts of chocolate, here’s what you’ve missed.  We’ve been discussing stress management and resiliency.  And goodness knows the holidays can be stressful.  Forget all the holiday gift shopping for a moment.  Just thinking about spending time with family for more than twenty minutes is enough to make me dive head first into a box of Turtles or consume a giant-sized bar of Tolberone.  We’re talking about stress. M...

November 29, 2018

As winter quickly (It’s actually here) approaches, and the days get darker and colder, our thoughts can turn to the negative, often leaving us feeling down, frustrated, sad, angry, which can sometimes turn into unhealthy coping strategies.  While some turn towards alcohol, drugs or food, others turn towards gambling, shopping and sex.  All of these behaviours are used to manage or cope with those negative feelings, often too difficult to experience. However, they are destructive behaviours that can impact ones life personally,...

November 8, 2018

In the last thirteen years of actively practicing cognitive-behavioural therapy, I have seen one tool that stands out apart from all others.  Disclaimer - I am not a ‘one-size-fits-all’ kind of therapist.  What works for one individual may not work at all for another.  People come to me with different goals, struggles, personality types, working styles.  All of these factors must be taken into account when choosing the right plan or program as a solution.  My job as a therapist is to have a big bag of tools and techniques that...

October 18, 2018

I am biased.  I admit it.  I am a Registered Psychotherapist, practicing over the last thirteen years.  I chose this profession because I believe in it. I have experienced the benefits myself and have seen the change and value in clients over the years.  In this blog, we’re going to discuss the benefits of counselling and how to find the right therapist for you.  This is the fourth blog in a series on the most effective techniques for improving your mental health.  We started this journey introducing the Benefits of Physical Ac...